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Review: The Ruby Glow

Thanks to the lovely people of TheRocksOff and thanks to the lovely Tabitha Rayne, I was able to review the Ruby Glow.

At Eroticon I already had a quick peek at the Ruby Glow and it had made me quite curious about it. Because for me, clitoral stimulation is the way to go for orgasms. So this definitely seemed like the toy to try out. I’m not the easiest when it comes to orgasms so one more potential way seemed like a good idea.

So taking it out of the box, I immediately tried it on and tried pushing buttons at random. There are two buttons on there, one for every separate motor that is in there. Of course just randomly pushing buttons, you might end up making music with the Ruby Glow. It can do a march quite handsomely. So yes the Ruby Glow definitely has rhythm. So with the two separate motors, you can decide what you want while sitting on it.

First step: Trying to figure out how to sit on it. Because you know, for science, I of course tried it the way it isn’t intended for as well. As well with and without a pillow under it. And of course with a hard chair and a soft one. Because, of course,  I need to test it properly under all circumstances. You know… for science! Also still works as a regular toy laying down or standing up, it’s just more of a hassle because you have to hold it. And in my opinion, it’s better with a hard surface underneath you. That way, if you get the right position and spot, it’s not instantly gone if you move.

Playing with the various settings, and with lots of shifting back and forth on it. It definitely works for me in terms of it actually is arousing and hitting the right spots. It does take some practice and some trying out with all the different settings what works for you. Personally I found the clitoris stimulation part a bit hard and I couldn’t find a good spot for it to work for me. The other part I found quite nice and stimulating. Especially just sitting with that part between my legs did the trick for getting enough stimuli.

A few of the patterns cracked me up though, one sounds exactly like your phone going off while on silent with vibration on. I managed to get a tango out of it. Almost got something like it sounding like it’s saying help. So yes, it has some interesting features and rhythms to work with, both along with a continuous vibration and a steady flow of vibrations.

The controls are quite easy to handle with only two buttons. You just have to keep clicking to rotate the pattern and if you want to shut it off, just press and hold the button for a bit. A good feature is that, because of the two separate motors, you can also just only use one of them.

The vibration was also more intense and harder than I would expect and certainly sufficient for proper stimulation. The material was also softer and more smooth than I expected. It does have a funny smell when it comes out of the box, but that’s not uncommon with new toys.

I personally prefer using clitoral toys with at least one layer of clothing, because it can get quite intense and sensitive with direct contact. The vibrations of the Ruby Glow are strong enough to make up for that extra layer and it feels quite nice as well. Because of the smoothness, you can easily slide back and forth on it while not getting friction.

For me, it didn’t do the trick though. It was nice but for me the clitoral part was too rigid and hard. I do like that the fact you have to sit on it and if you do, it’s quite comfortable. And yes obviously, part of this review is written while actually sitting on it. It does make a nice distraction or motivator. It’s all good vibrations!

So in short:

  • Good, good vibrations! The two separate motors are easy to match.
  • Body safe silicone, easy to clean and splash safe.
  • Well designed and long battery life (takes two AAA batteries)
  • Sitting on it and hitting the right place takes some practice
  • Some movements may feel uncomfortable and hard while sitting on it if you shift or flinch a little when it hits the right spot.

Wicked Wednesday: A Good Start

It started a while ago. We were just chatting along about kinky things when the subject of switching came up.

“Wanna hear a secret?”

“Yes?”

“I wanted you to take control”

“What? When?”

“When I was teasing you”

And that was the start. From those few lines, a conversation followed about what my submissive side would need. I’ve had unpleasant experiences in the past so my main issue is trust and being a control freak. I trust him and I feel safe but still there is that little voice inside my head that keeps spreading doubt and make things bigger than they seem. But I digress, in that conversation I told my limits, but most of all, the things I found hot. What would get me going.

Needless to say, hornyness ensued but I managed to contain it.

Arriving at the venue we were greeted by the organization. We were checked off and we received some currency each because it was an auction party and you could buy people with fictional money. I got dressed and my cutie had to put on his dress and heels too. I was going to auction wrestling with me and he was going auction himself as sub with me as dominant. I got sold and after the auction you immediately had to deliver so I stripped a bit and got ready to wrestle. I really should remember to wear more clothing because we wrestled on carpet so yes I had quite a bit of rug burn. But it was fun nonetheless.

After that, it was time for me to punish my boy. He had a few points to resolve because he played with himself without permission and came without permission too. He is no fan of pain and therefore his punishment was pain. To make sure he would remember it and not make the same mistake. First of all I wanted him in the right mindset. So chastity cage on and teasing him. I pushed the cutie to the floor and had him kneel in front of me. Pushing him to the floor I put my feet up on him and just waited. He started to wobble a bit and slowly but surely he fell over. Being totally cute I put one foot on his face while he just laid there. After a while of teasing him, I gave him his punishment. He definitely didn’t like it and after he endured it we laid cuddling and talking.

“You want to switch?”

I looked him in the eyes and said yes.
“Well, first you have to unlock something if you want that to happen”  and he looked down at his chastity cage.

I started laughing and fidgeted the keys of my zipper. I unlocked him and after putting the cage away he grabbed my head and kissed me. I could sense the change in him and we headed to change outfits. I put on my schoolgirl skirt and while I was grabbing my top, his hand slipped under my skirt and he said while gripping my undies “You don’t need these”

Being a good girl I took them off and I instantly felt more naked and more aware of my hornyness. When I finished changing he came up to me with his collar and leash. He put it on me and guided me back to the bar area.

He kissed me and forced me to his knees. I don’t remember exactly what we said after that because I was still being cheeky and he was asking me trick questions. Like what to call him. He didn’t mention it before so I was like, yeah but you didn’t say anything about that. (yes I was being cheeky and an smart ass) Could have been anything that you want me to say. But eventually I did call him Sir while I was on my knees for him.

My knees hurt from the rug burn so I just sat down sideways in front of him.

“What should I do with you?”

I said I didn’t know and he pulled me up again. We walked towards the other room and in the hallway we started to wrestle. I said with my dry sarcasm, wouldn’t it be easier to wrestle in the room there? You know,  open space and all. We moved into the room and quickly we were on the ground. I don’t know how he did it but suddenly he sat on top of me. I tried to buck him off but it didn’t work. During that process my skirt hiked up and I vaguely was aware my pussy was in full sight. My top also started to come undone and my boobs were saying hi. I’m sure nobody did mind that. Must have been because he triggered me that I at some point just didn’t try as hard to get him off me. His hand found its way to my pussy and he felt how wet I was. While I was squirming and flailing my legs around a bit, he was playing with my pussy and people were definitely enjoying the view.

I whimpered and squirmed as he kept teasing me. He knew what I wanted. I wanted him and sex. Rough sex. I wanted him to take me. But for that I needed to train him first. Teach him how I work and what works for me. It really felt like topping from the bottom (definitely in a literal sense) but it is needed communication. He does want me to feel safe and not fuck up. I trust him, but i am also a control freak. So to truly let to go I need to be stuck.

It was really hot until I had to sit up for a bit because my head was exploding and my neck was stuck. So after a break and some quiet time we continued a while later.

Throwing me on the bed he forced me down face first and yet again I tried to struggle my way out. I was getting less and less defiant and wanting to give in. Feeling him on top of me, not being able to move. My barriers faded but I still wasn’t completely there. Definitely horny as fuck though. So that one time at the party wasn’t enough.

Next time, more?

Definitely a good start…

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Changing needs

So lately my kinky needs and preferences changed a bit. They shifted. I have been craving the submissive side more and more. My dominant side is still interesting but only when I do actually feel like it. And at the moment that’s not a whole lot. My sadistic side still is more present compared to other dominant things.

My submissive side has been wanting to come out and play, more and more. Being a switch at heart allowed me to explore a lot of things already, mostly on the dominant side though. Which is great but my submissive side was hiding during that. Always in the back of my mind, dreaming of things that I want some day. And now that side is emerging. That voice inside my head, picturing things that I’ve been wanting to do for ages. It has been growing stronger, my bounces stronger as well. My dominant side is still present but not as dominant (pun intended) anymore.

I love to explore at heart, and I will keep exploring.
And with that exploring, I have a few things that are on my (kinky) to do list.

Explore more of my submissive/slutty side.

Have a threesome MFM

Have a moresome

Have sex with a celebrity (just for fun, because who wouldn’t want to?)

Get a full body paint

No I am not gonna make it a year to do list, I do like to explore at my own pace. Sure, I’m greedy and want it all but I’m patient too. And I am very happy already for all the things I got to explore with different people. And yes I have a hell of a lot more on my wishlist but I do like to keep it short. And yes I am going to try and do more posts, I do miss you all and will definitely be here more!

 

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TMI: Sex, seriously?

1. Do you think being a sex worker is as legitimate a work option as being an accountant?

Well of course it is. Here in the Netherlands sex workers pay taxes like everyone else, so why shouldn’t it be?

2. Which of these rules would you follow if your lover had to have it followed in order to be aroused:
a. wear socks while having sex
b. have the lights on during sex
c. have the TV playing, volume up while having sex
d. the room must be in complete darkness to have sex

The most annoying one would be C, because that certainly will be distracting. Had sex one time with Indiana Jones and the temple of doom playing in the background. That bitch screams a hell of a lot.

The others, I wouldn’t care much about. Unless they are white socks, those are just waiting for a ban. A sock gap isn’t that bad. Actually with women it helps with with orgasms if your feet are warm.

3. You must plan an evening of sex with your lover. Tell us what you’ve planned for the evening.

The whole evening hmmm. Totally depends on the kind of lover though. But one can always start with a full body massage. Lots of cuddling and kisses. Lots of teasing. More teasing. Rope, Doxy, blindfold, more teasing. Sex! I usually just improvise though because I can easily start having a laughing fit I can’t get out anymore.

4. Rule: If one of you is in the mood for sex and the other is not, you give the other 24 hours to ‘get in the mood’ before masturbating. Would this work in for you or in your relationship–why or why not?

Definitely not, pressure would be a bad thing in that case. Takes all the spontaneous fun out of it.

5. Apparently, even though it is the year 2016, some folks still have a “number” that delineates another person from being normal and liking sex versus being promiscuous. What is THAT number for you? According to a recent U.K. report more than 15 sexual conquests for a man can be off-putting, while more that 14 sexual encounters for a woman may give a potential suitor pause.

My count so far is over 20. For me there is no number. Also, nothing wrong with being confident about sex and taking what you want. Promiscuous for the win!

Bonus: How was your weekend?

Oooh well it was lots of fun, I did have quite a bit of fun at a kinky play party. Had a lovely boy to tease and made him do things that he didn’t expect he would dare in public. In short, fun and progress 😉

Wicked Wednesday: Tea date

I checked my phone again for the time and looked at the board. He could be coming around the corner any second now. I’ll admit, I’m not that nervous with dates but it’s always a little exciting. Judging just by his pictures he was darn cute but people are always a little different on pictures. I instantly recognized him from his pictures as he walked around the corner and he recognized me as well. Hard to miss a tall lady like myself. He came in for a handshake but I instantly waved it away for a big hug.

We walked towards the nearest pub we could find because of course, hail came raining down upon us. Sitting down, I had a good look at him while sitting across from him. Very handsome and adorable. Before we met up, we had been chatting for quite a bit and I did mention something about getting very wet and wondering how he would look between my legs. After chatting for a bit, the thought crossed my mind again. I decided I definitely would want him between my legs. Then and there I made up my mind, I had to have him.

After a few drinks we decided to go to another place and we sat opposite of each other again. Further along the conversations, I slowly started to make my move. Crossing my legs, I made sure to have my leg next to his. And I slowly started to caress his leg with my foot. Just subtle enough to be maybe incidental. His body language changed slightly and I kept doing it. The conversation changed and I don’t remember what it was but he was wondering about me behaving. I put my hand on his knee and his expression changed. Slowly stroking it I kept looking him into his eyes and I saw him shiver. I felt his leg starting to tremble when I kept stroking it. He obviously didn’t see it coming and he was totally adorable. I decided it was time for some more action and suggested we go outside for a walk. He agreed and we went outside. Coming out of the pub I grabbed his arm and hooked mine into it. I guided him while we walked and at a nice and quiet spot I turned in front of him and kissed him. I felt his resistance melt away after a few seconds and he returned the kiss. I felt my pussy become more and more wet between my legs and I broke off the kiss again. We walked further until I saw a park. It looked nice and quiet and I dragged him along with me.

I stopped him under a tree and started kissing him again. Slowly his hands became more daring and he cupped one of my breasts. I grabbed him by his ass and pulled him against me. I felt his erection through his pants and started grinding my body against it a bit. One of my hands wandered to his head and grabbed him by the back of his hair. I pulled a bit and broke the kiss. Looking at him, I let my other hand wander to the front of his pants and softly stroked it with my fingertips. His hand slowly made its way to the front of my body and he slowly pulled up my skirt. I grabbed his hand and while pulling it to the side I softly said no. With a whimper he kissed me again and I kissed back. Softly biting his lips, I caught myself and let go again. Trying to restrain myself I grabbed his chin and pushed him back a bit.

His hand was slowly wandering to my front again and he looked at me.

‘Go on’  I said.

He didn’t waste any time and pulling up my skirt he made his way to my pussy. By this time I was utterly soaked already and it even started leaking through my panties. He gasped, feeling how wet I was and slowly let his fingers explore. Wanting to keep him on edge I grabbed his arm again and removed it from my wetness. A slight groan escaped him when I grabbed his erection and squeezed. Turning me on with his groaning I started kissing him again. His hands wandered towards my ass and cautiously he started his fondling. I let him for a bit and I grabbed his arms again. Emphasizing it again with a soft no while looking into his eyes.

Even though we both were horny as hell, I noticed that he was shivering and suggested that we should walk back. On the way home again, I couldn’t stop grinning. Knowing that this would only be the beginning.

 

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Being out

It’s one of those things that is always lurking around the corner and sooner or later will happen.

Being out.

Out of the kink closet and possibly out of the sex blogger one too.

Bit scary, but seems I can react swiftly and calmly to it.

The scary part being, why did he say it to me? Of course it’s appreciated that he did so I know he’s aware.

‘Hey I don’t wanna gossip or anything but I found your okcupid profile.’

That’s all it took.

I don’t remember exactly what I said but I mumbled something about it being okay and our open relationship.

The awkward moment passed pretty quickly because there were other people around. I think it was more awkward for him since his head was red. I like to think that I’d responded very calmly. Sure, in my head I went oh shit for a second, but I’m pretty open in general about things so it doesn’t bother me.

What I am wondering of course it’s how much he read and how much he found. Did he make the link to my blog? Did he go through all my question answers?

And of course, why did he say something? Fellow kinkster in the closet or just a very polite vanilla friend?
Of course being a very curious person, I’m curious. But I also respect his privacy to not click on his profile.  

Anyway, I don’t mind being out. Mainly, because he’s a friend. And seems to me that he didn’t go all crazy over it. He responded in a correct way and let me know. Thanks, I very much appreciate that. And now I know that it isn’t as scary as I thought it would be to be out to someone. I know now that I can respond calmly and not freak out. Well at least calmly on the inside. It’s only natural to freak out a little bit in your head.

Also, if you’re reading this * waves hi*