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When I saw that the kink of the week was femdom, I just had to join in. As a woman that loves to be dominant, I like femdom. As a switch, I’ve never been on the receiving side though of femdom. Maybe just because I don’t get women as good as I get men. Women can be scary. Trust me. I know I can be.

I have been out of the femdom stuff for a while and out of kink. But recently I had my kink jump started when I found a new lover. Even though I been wanting to explore more on the submissive side, he triggered my dominant side. I just had to have him. And so it started. He was still very new so I took it slow and I still am taking it slow.

For me, femdom is about the connection you have with someone. Sure I can a sadistic bitch with hitting a person I don’t have a good connection with, but it’s not the same as having someone trust you completely. The better the connection, the more satisfying is the relationship. The connection I’m having with my new lover makes it even better. I even dare to say I’m in love.

That love is what makes play even more intense. The first time making out with some heavy petting, I just looked him in the eyes and it was just very intense. We were both in the flow and it connected very naturally.

I take pride in keeping that trust safe. The biggest compliment I can get, are the words ‘I trust you.’ To see someone shed their fears and surrender to you, is very satisfying. Not to mention fucking hot. Oh yes, it’s very hot to have the control over someone. Especially if it’s a cute sub I can proudly call my own. For me, femdom definitely is linked to sex as well. I love the mix of sex and kink with everything but there’s something special about sex when you’re the one in charge. Something about those pleading eyes looking up to you, begging to be taken. Begging you to make them your own.

Besides the connection with someone, I like to keep my play light and not too serious. Plus I like to mess with people and the way they perceive me. I’ve done it plenty that I had the most cute and adorable schoolgirl outfit on, while at a party. And I just messed people up by hurting someone while dressed like that. Looks can be quite deceiving. Nothing like looking cute and cuddly while wielding a carpet beater of mini cricket bat.