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Kink of the week: Back into femdom!

When I saw that the kink of the week was femdom, I just had to join in. As a woman that loves to be dominant, I like femdom. As a switch, I’ve never been on the receiving side though of femdom. Maybe just because I don’t get women as good as I get men. Women can be scary. Trust me. I know I can be.

I have been out of the femdom stuff for a while and out of kink. But recently I had my kink jump started when I found a new lover. Even though I been wanting to explore more on the submissive side, he triggered my dominant side. I just had to have him. And so it started. He was still very new so I took it slow and I still am taking it slow.

For me, femdom is about the connection you have with someone. Sure I can a sadistic bitch with hitting a person I don’t have a good connection with, but it’s not the same as having someone trust you completely. The better the connection, the more satisfying is the relationship. The connection I’m having with my new lover makes it even better. I even dare to say I’m in love.

That love is what makes play even more intense. The first time making out with some heavy petting, I just looked him in the eyes and it was just very intense. We were both in the flow and it connected very naturally.

I take pride in keeping that trust safe. The biggest compliment I can get, are the words ‘I trust you.’ To see someone shed their fears and surrender to you, is very satisfying. Not to mention fucking hot. Oh yes, it’s very hot to have the control over someone. Especially if it’s a cute sub I can proudly call my own. For me, femdom definitely is linked to sex as well. I love the mix of sex and kink with everything but there’s something special about sex when you’re the one in charge. Something about those pleading eyes looking up to you, begging to be taken. Begging you to make them your own.

Besides the connection with someone, I like to keep my play light and not too serious. Plus I like to mess with people and the way they perceive me. I’ve done it plenty that I had the most cute and adorable schoolgirl outfit on, while at a party. And I just messed people up by hurting someone while dressed like that. Looks can be quite deceiving. Nothing like looking cute and cuddly while wielding a carpet beater of mini cricket bat.


Kink of the week: Anal!

So, anal sex. Let’s talk about that. For me, anal is something that I don’t mind (secretly love sometimes even, shhhh) but it can be a hassle sometimes. For it to be comfortable it needs some stretching up and warming up but I can imagine that’s the case for most people. But it’s hot when it’s done right. For instance when your play partner has you insert a plug in you and proceeds to fuck you while you have it in. As someone with a double penetration fantasy that she still wants to experience at least once, that is hot as fuck.

Very hot as fuck actually, especially with some kink and restraints involved. Or just two guys that hold you in to place as they…. But I digress. Ahum, let’s see where was I?

Ah yes anal, sometimes I also include it with masturbating but usually only when I have a play partner who also loves it that I do that. Sometimes even with a dildo along with it. Okay I see a pattern here now. With my masturbating, I usually read my porn and anal often is also a part of it. I’m a fan of non-consent writing and for me it can also be something that is more degrading. For me that’s more something in the category of a fucktoy with all holes being used kind of thing.

But as a switch and owner of a strapon harnass and a bigass dildo that somehow ended up being called Henk, I also have an interest for pegging. Not as much as I used to anymore but it’s still there… somewhere. Currently I’m just more greedy and want to experience things myself while being the willing subject. But I do love walking around with Henk. And get into cockfights or just whooosh it around. Yes, I definitely have cock envy there and to take someone with a cock feels like a very powerful thing to do. And it is quite pleasing. And also making me horny as fuck in general. First time I pegged someone I forgot to wear panties and had my juices halfway down my leg. Yeah I was just as surprised.

So yes, I do like it, don’t mind it but it’s also perfectly okay to not have it included in sex or masturbation.


Kink of the week: High Heels

I love heels. Yes I said it. I love them. I do not love the way some of them hurt my feet though. Of course there are different ones that do or do not make my feet hurt quickly but eventually I end up walking too much on them and it will be a relief to take them off. So yes it takes some planning on my behalf if I know I am going to be walking a lot, I’ll bring a pair of flats. And sometimes my impulsivity gets me end up with glass in my foot because I had to take them off and I’ll just walk home barefoot.

But let’s discuss the more obvious one for me. Being tall and wearing heels. Yes, I know I am tall with my 6’1/1.85 and yes I will be even taller. My porn heels will make me tower over people and yes it does make me feel too tall sometimes. But fuck, why shouldn’t I wear heels just because I am already tall? When I’m wearing heels I do get it asked a lot. Why do you wear heels when you obviously are tall as fuck? I generally tend to answer with; why not?
And yes they usually answer with because you are already tall. Which really is a bullshit way of saying ‘I already envy your height so you can’t artificially alter it any more to he even taller than I am’.

It might not been said but the message sometimes is quite clear. And to be honest, I don’t give a fuck about what others might think, and so should you. No matter what gender you identify as, no matter how you look, no matter how tall you are, if you love wearing heels, just wear them!

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Kink of the week: Orgasm control

First of all I have to say that I love orgasm control, especially used in combination with teasing it is a very fun thing. On someone else I must say, of course. On me it probably won’t work or even work counter horniness. I love being in control of a  man and his orgasms, not only because of the control but also the effects of it. For me, it helps enhance the dominant control and presence.


Let’s just say I have control over your orgasms.

Yes you.

Every time you get excited and your mind wanders.

I will be there in your mind. Every day.

It will enhance your submissiveness, you want to serve me more and better.

You pay attention more to what I say and what I like and dislike.

You will be begging me for release, hoping I will be kind.

I will be teasing you.

More and more.

You will beg me more and more for release.

Just the way I like it



Kink of the week: Biting

I absolutely love biting, definitely a favorite of mine. For me it depends on the other person in what way though. When it comes to sex, some people give amazing responses if you bite them during sex. Doesn’t have to be really hard but I found out that you do it often enough it will most definitely leave a big bruise. I do like to tease with the combination of pleasure and pain.

Being bitten I don’t mind either, apart from my nipples. They were bitten once pretty hard and yes it did bleed. Did not like that at all. My nipples aren’t really a sensitive or erogenous zone but when it comes to biting… yeah no. I would much rather do the biting. When I’m in a funny mood I do like to joke about biting different parts of the body. Usually makes the other person squirm…


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Kink of the week: Exhibitionism

Sex in public places? Yes that’s definitely my kind of thing. I love being watched and even a remote chance of somebody seeing you any second is an exciting thrill to me. I’ve had sex with others in the room before while touching or being touched. It’s quite hot if it’s in the right circumstances and it can add to a great experience. Of course the biggest act of exhibitionism is the fact that I have this blog. I love sharing bits and pieces of myself to you all.

I haven’t always been like this and in fact I’m still a little shy sometimes despite the fact that I’m quite the exhibitionist. I certainly won’t make the first move very quickly when it comes to dates. But once past that point I do open up. Sometimes I think I’m almost too much of an exhibitionist because I’m very open and honest with you all. I always say to people that they can ask me anything. Of course being so open does have drawbacks sometimes but usually my honesty is appreciated a lot and many find it refreshing to hear.

Once naked I have no problem walking around naked around others. Going to the sauna, I have no problem stripping my clothes off in front of strangers. Or family for that matter, when I was younger I used to walk around the house half naked anyway and I never scared away from bikinis or even topless sunbathing. I’ve never been prude about things like that and I find it cute to see if others desperately cling to their towels and quickly slip in a sauna. I just walk naked from sauna to sauna, unless it’s beyond chilly of course. Sharing pictures with others is also no big thing for me, but I do only share other pictures (that are not on my blog) with people I’ve met and trust. But again showing nakedness, no problem at all. Even with going out I have no problem with revealing skin and I think the people who have seen me in person will agree that I have no problem with my ass being on show (or other things on show).

I get turned on with people watching me but I also enjoy watching them at the same time. When it’s only one way though, it’s not that much of a turn on. Exhibitionism for me always goes two ways, I show you mine if you show me yours 😉