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A year of change

While the year has come to an end, I realize this last year had a lot of change for me. Not only personal but also for the blog there has been a few changes.

Yes I’ve moved the blog to a real domain and that has been one of the big changes, I still need to find some time to tweak it all but for now it will do. Also happy to report that I’ll be going to Eroticon 2014 but I still haven’t figured out all the details and part of the funds. I will however, be there and I’m very thankful to those that helped make that happen so far, granted I helped filling the gap with the funds for my ticket and plane ticket but I couldn’t have done that without you, yes you know who you are and I’m very grateful for that. I loved going to Eroticon last time and I’m sure I’ll enjoy en learn a lot from going again in the new year.

I’ve been exploring more kink in the last year and even found some local play partners. I love exploring all different kinds of things and I’m happy and grateful being able to do that. In the new year I will be exploring more and more and will immerse myself into the dominant side even more. As much as I identify as switch, I’ve been enjoying the dominant side more and more and like to be in charge.

I’ve grown as a person in the past year and I intend to do the same in the new one. I’ve grown hungry for more exploring, more knowledge and more learning and I hope that at the end of the year I can proudly say I’ve explored and learned a lot.

I’ll also be working more on my 101 things in 1001 days list, and will be making a page for that on my blog as soon as I can. I still have a lot of things I want to do and finish and I’ll make a task of it to keep working on that. I’ve been neglecting it lately apart from my keeping a diary task and I’d be happy to get more involved again.

What I also would like to do is put more writing on my blog, either as in stories or poems. I’d love to get into the routine of writing more for myself next to other things I have going on in my life. And it would be nice to be able to actually manage to work in advance for my blog so that I don’t have to do everything at the last second.

If you have any requests or ideas for what you would like to see and read on my blog, don’t feel shy and leave a comment either here or on twitter. I’d love to know what you would like to to see more of on my blog.

I wish you all a happy new year and hope you’ll make the best out of it.


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Slut-shaming by Urban Dictionary – “An unfortunate phenomenon in which people degrade or mock a woman because she enjoys having sex, has sex a lot, or may even just be rumored to participate in sexual activity.”

Slut-shaming, also known as slut-bashing, is the idea of shaming and/or attacking a woman or a girl for being sexual, having one or more sexual partners, acknowledging sexual feelings, and/or acting on sexual feelings.

If you would go by those standards, yes you could call me a slut. If you’re that shallow and ignorant, be my guest. Personally, apart from a few men on Twitter who called me a slut for saying ‘no I don’t want to follow you and for you to DM me without asking, fuck off to them’, I never had any trouble or comments on my lifestyle. That’s mostly because I keep my face hidden online but if it had no consequences for my career I would have have no problem showing my face. It’s unfortunate that it has to be that way but that sadly is the way things are.

I’m sure we all remember news stories about women that lost their jobs because (half) naked pictures turned up from their past. I can understand the shock but losing your job over something like that is appalling and wrong. Even in a liberal and sex friendly country as the Netherlands it happens. We do have one of the most awesome shows on television that not only looks into anything sex related but also drugs called ‘Spuiten en Slikken’ (Shoot and Swallow). It is a wonderful program that literally will talk about anything and they have nothing they won’t cover. On of the things I clearly remember is that one of our top female gymnasts, Verona van der Leur got a lot of comments in the media because she does adult webcamming now. She got a lot of comments and critique and that is just with showing off her body on cam, not even having sex. If I would have a career as a sex worker, I would have no problem with showing my face. In that show she was treated as a normal human being and the hosts were genuinely curious about her choices. I admit that the hosts can be a little ignorant at times but they are open minded and willing to learn.

Sadly it also depends on in which country you are, how harsh people can be. In the Netherlands it is legal to be a prostitute and to work together in a brothel.  There always will be people opposing payed sex but it is accepted that it happens. Personally I have no problem at all with any kind of sex work and I think a person should not be judged by what he or she does for a living. In America it varies per state what is legal and what it not but in the most of America it is illegal to be a prostitute. Doing a little research I found out that this is the same in Australia. Escort agencies like this one and this one are legal but they have to be registered and are regulated. In the west part of Australia prostitution is legal but brothels are not so that’s a lot like the situation.


Looking at this map you can see how few countries actually have legalized prostitution. The green indicates the countries that legalized and regulated prostitution, blue indicates prostitution is legal but any form of organization is illegal and it is not regulated, red indicates that prostitution is illegal and grey is unknown. What I find most upsetting here is the amount of countries that have legalized prostitution but any kind of organization is illegal. In my eyes that is stupid because it’s safer to be within a group instead of being out there on your own.

But anyway I digress, I mentioned it because the media is always cruel when it comes to mentioning prostitutes in the media. If something happens to them that is newsworthy they always refer to them as prostitutes instead of a woman or a mother. If you pay attention to it in the newspaper you will see that most of the journalists put extra emphasis on prostitutes and usually in a negative manner as well.

Another sad thing about it is that there is a double standard. If a guy has sex and loves it, it’s normal but if a woman does, it’s slutty and promiscuous all of a sudden. I’m comfortable with my sexuality and I love sex. I love being a tease and I love to flirt. It’s in my nature and even though I love it, it does not make me a slut. Not like that anyway, the only time I don’t mind hearing slut, is with dirty talk. Otherwise I don’t like being called a slut, especially from a passing car, being yelled out of a window.

Yes that has happened to me, and it is not a pleasant experience. Of course I know they probably meant it as a joke and did it for ‘fun’ but it’s very low in my eyes. People who do that are cowards who have no clue how they contribute to a image for woman that isn’t exactly positive. Women should be comfortable with how they wear and not be punished for wanting to feel sexy. Personally I feel sexy if I get to show off my curves but in my ‘normal’ clothes I feel sexy as well. A woman should never feel ashamed of herself. No matter what she wears or does, so slut-shamers; shame on you.

Disclaimer: this is a sponsored post but this contains my personal views.

Wicked Wednesday: Warning…

Going to London I warned everyone that I was coming to town, and sure got myself into some naughty things. Not only did I buy my pretty corset at the London Fetish Fair but I also got to use my carpet beater. And I got a delicious back massage (even though I wanted those hands elsewhere) I Even got flogged and I got my feet licked by an obedient little boy 😉

Even after all that on my way back in the airplane, I felt naughty and did this…



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Also this is an entry for my personal scavenge hunt (a sexy one that is)
You can find more about that on Dee her site

Sultry Saturday: Lollipop

Licking a lollipop once you’re an adult is never the same
Licking and sucking never is

Imagining it’s your body
Keeping my mind dirty until the lollipop has gone


This is a post for Sultry Saturday, contest edition… with a lollipop of course 😉


Some sexy A-Z

This is inspired by Beck her giveaway and I’ve decided to give it my own special twist. This is my own special ABC. It’s a mix of what I am and I’m sorry for the Stan Lee mimics (you’ll get it eventually)

A – Additively Alluring (I’m like coffee)

B – Beautiful Breasts (Yes fairly obvious from my blog pictures, I have breasts and I love them. (I got to admit other people love them more then I do though))

C – Curiously Cunning (A very bad combination)

D – Devilishly Deviant (Also a bad combination)

E – Exciting Erotic (Obviously)

F – Fun Fantasies (Who doesn’t like a little fun)

G – Glorious Geeky Glamazon (Oh yes)

H – Helpful Hands (The more the merrier)

I – Incognito Images (For extra fun)

J – Juicy Jiggles (*insert sexy comment here*)

K – Kinky Kisser (For those who will find out)

L – Luscious Long Legs (That go on forever)

M – Moaning More (And more…)

N – Nice and Naughty (Like a good girl)

O –  Overly Outgoing (I can be all over)

P – Perfectly Playful (Because I love to play…)

Q – Quivering Quickie (Let’s find out who will quiver…)

R – Ravishing Role-player (Oh yes)

S – Sexy Spankings (If you can catch me)

T –  Terrible Tease (I really am)

U – Uncontrollable Underwear (I keep finding them at weird places_

V – Very Voyeuristic (Quite obviously)

W – Wonderfully Wanton (Do I need to say more?)

X – X-rated Xenodochial (Just Google it, I dare you..)

Y – Yearning for You (Oh yes you…and you..)

Z – Zany Zombie-lover (Very geeky, I know)

Okay I really got Stan Lee syndrome now from all of this.

E[lust] #42

Dec 15 2012

Photo courtesy of Penny

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Why Don’t You Go Fuck Yourself?

Kink & Fetish

An Unexpected Gift
Cathartic Sex
Confession: The Stalking of a Doll
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Kink Guide to Fifty Shades Darker: conclusion
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Pain and Collars
Pegging Prep for Virgin Territory
The Cowboy (1 of 4)

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Everything You Give
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Get Back in Line
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nching on “Special K”
On The Phone
Out of the Blue
Take Two
The Stranger
White Stockings, White Stockings She Wore
What if?
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