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It is no secret that Rose is far more kinky than me. Though I have some light interests compared to her I’m practically vanilla. This did cause some tension in the past. While I would try to accommodate her, I just wasn’t into it as much which made it less enjoyable for her.

These days we have something that can best be described as an open relationship. This is not something that happened overnight. It’s something we grew into over time.

In a previous post you can read about how I learned of her adventures and my reaction to them. This was probably the biggest turning point when it came to being more accepting of the open relationship.

At the time she was in Norway and I knew she would want to have some adventures so I already gave her some freedom. The important thing was that at first I set some limitation and she honored them. While she wanted an open relationship she never pushed for one.

I was uncomfortable with the idea partly for a fear of losing her and also that she was getting a lot of attention and I wasn’t. Both were rather stupid reasons.

Her time away quickly taught me that sex wasn’t what made us happy in our relationship. Being together and sharing life was. Secondly making it a competition is just dumb for all kinds of reasons.

She also showed me that she was very picky with who to hook up with and of course shared all the saucy details. Which only helped to turn me on. It was around then that I pretty much accepted it. It made her happy and seeing her happy made me happy.

Ultimately we’re in a place that works for us because we developed an understanding for each other. Plus we’re still planning on doing a lot of things together as well.

For myself as of this writing I have mostly done some online chatting. But no hooking up yet. There’s another post coming on why that is. But I’ve learned that I’m not really in a rush, it’ll happen when it happens. Though Rose is encouraging me.